Parenting is an ongoing battle between mind and heart of the parent. What is the best way to raise the children? To make the children do house chores or not? To spoil the children with gifts and freebies as House helps do the work or not? To balance the tasks at home or not? Whoever uses the heart to guide the young ones, is most likely to win and make a great parent. For that reason, uneducated parents make great parents as well just like their educated counterparts— parenting with a heart is the equalizer. The winner is always someone…
The tragedy of parenting
What is the predictor of success in life? Is it nurture or nature? I learned a lot from my late grandpa, who I lived with a big part of my early life. He told me many profound insights. He used to say, “education does not help the lazy.” Now I know that this meant more work is after getting that degree! He was right. To get ahead, one must put in the extra effort. Have an ambition. Wake up early. Work hard by always going the extra mile. A genius may need just one hour to cover what an average…
The cost of parenting
It is too expensive to produce. Kampala has finally made me stop my dream of having three children. Two are already too many. This morning, James a 30-year-old asked me: “Mustapha, I need advice. At day-care they are asking for Ugx. 1,500,000 per month to look after my 2-year-old baby. I cannot afford it.” That baby is too young. Why not let him be with the mother? I asked. To which James replied that the mother left us. “She woke up one day and said, I am going back to school. Your child is here. You are not yet ready…
The sister temptations, part 3
How Hot is Your Love Life? Take a Survey Today to find how to make your relationships magnetic by clicking this link She looked at me and kissed me. I enjoyed the warm kiss. I put off the light in the sitting room; and left only the television on. I held her tightly. And she too. And as they say the rest is history. “Let me know if you need a massage. Your shoulders look stiff. This is holiday. You need to relax”, she said. “You have never watched a movie with me. Why?” She added, as she moved away…
Why try me with your sister?
Why try me with your sister? “At about 9pm, I had a knock on my bedroom door. Not sure of who was outside, I opened the door. It was my wife’s sister. She was wearing a see-through pink night dress, so tight and revealing like someone with a tight swim suite walking out of a swimming pool. I could see all her body corners. I was suddenly alarmed. This lady had personally escorted my wife, her sister, to the airport for a seven days business trip to China for an early morning flight. As my mind was racing through so…
Why and who to marry? Part 2
“In a good marriage, couples are like Tennis players, when one beats the ball to the other player, it must be returned. Once one stops returning the ball, the game is over.” That is how communication among marrieds should be – a two-way traffic. One of the red flags of a marriage in problem is lack of swift communication between the couples. You make a phone call and it takes long to be answered. You text, no response. In the morning, you greet, and no response comes. Or the husband or wife just gets out of bed, and the next…