Luke 13:1- 4 Some people arrived and told Jesus about the Galileans whose blood Pilate had mingled with that of their sacrifices. At this he said to them, ‘Do you suppose these Galileans who suffered like that were greater sinners than any other Galileans? They were not, I tell you. No; but unless you repent you will all perish as they did. Why does love and trust fly out of the window within just two years of marriage for some couples? What is the secret to a happy and loving marriage? Why are some families happy while others not? What…
Tool #32 of 104 is to change one step at a time
Luke 9:28. Jesus took with him Peter and John and James and went up the mountain to pray. As he prayed, the aspect of his face was changed and his clothing became brilliant as lightning. If you have attended couples’ forums, you understand the state of families today. Everything starts well until the wedding is complete. It has become so bad that some newly wedded couples divorce just after the honeymoon is over. At one of the marriage couples’ forum I am happy to have facilitated, each of the partners was asked to write three things they would love their…
Why try me with your sister?
Why try me with your sister? “At about 9pm, I had a knock on my bedroom door. Not sure of who was outside, I opened the door. It was my wife’s sister. She was wearing a see-through pink night dress, so tight and revealing like someone with a tight swim suite walking out of a swimming pool. I could see all her body corners. I was suddenly alarmed. This lady had personally escorted my wife, her sister, to the airport for a seven days business trip to China for an early morning flight. As my mind was racing through so…
Marriage woes: to check the phone or not
“I want you to recover all the WhatsApp messages, SMSs and Facebook chats. My husband is always smiling while chatting on the phone a for a long period of time in the evening. First, he comes home late. Then, he hooks himself on the phone and chats as he smiles. He won’t let me share on the jokes. It is him and the person on the other side. He is growing cold towards me and I need to know what exactly he is up to.” As a Team Leader at a digital forensic investigations firm, Summit Consulting Ltd, I often…
Why and who to marry? Part 2
“In a good marriage, couples are like Tennis players, when one beats the ball to the other player, it must be returned. Once one stops returning the ball, the game is over.” That is how communication among marrieds should be – a two-way traffic. One of the red flags of a marriage in problem is lack of swift communication between the couples. You make a phone call and it takes long to be answered. You text, no response. In the morning, you greet, and no response comes. Or the husband or wife just gets out of bed, and the next…
Why and who to marry?
I met my wife at my brother’s wedding meeting. Before then, I did not know that she was my student for a period of over 10 months! It was in 2004. Being early birds, we found ourselves the first two at the meeting venue. And that is how we started a conversation. As they say, the rest is history. We wedded in 2006. We continue to surprise each other. Before you decide who to marry, start with why do you want to marry? Why marry by when? Forget the motivation talks out there on “each person has got their own…